124. What outrages you? (Wake Forest)
Fake and judgmental people. It's true, at some point in time all of us have been fake, and all of us have been judgmental of the people around us. I have certainly done so. However, from being judged, I realized how unfair it all is. The two tie together, so we start with the question: What's the point of being fake? The answer most given is probably so that people will like you (then later, of course, we say we want someone who will like us for who we are, not what we're not). We've all seen at least one person who when they are with their friends are rude and inconsiderate, but when they're alone are very friendly and caring. Who's the real person? When they're alone you can have a real conversation with them, but when they're with their group they pretend you don't exist.
After that, you begin to judge them. You mark them as rude and fake. You tell people that this person did this and that, and then other people mark them as the same way, based on what you've said. That's only one kind of judgment that exists. Another is judging them by their attitude and behavior. A new girl comes to school and then begins talking to all the guys and no, or few, girls. What do we say about that person? If you go by the words of the modern movies about high school people, you would probably say something like "she's such a slut." What makes you say that? The fact that she only talks to the guys?What about you who was just standing around, simply watching her, and judging her. Do you know anything about her? I have known many people who get along with people of the opposite gender than them because they are either mostly surrounded by them, or get along better with them. You can't judge someone just by what they do.
Given, the person who's being judged has to also be careful. The fact is, being judged, especially in a school, is expected. Everyone is going to do it. The person being judged is giving people the information they need need to start rumors, and judge. It goes both ways.
Fake and judgmental people. It's true, at some point in time all of us have been fake, and all of us have been judgmental of the people around us. I have certainly done so. However, from being judged, I realized how unfair it all is. The two tie together, so we start with the question: What's the point of being fake? The answer most given is probably so that people will like you (then later, of course, we say we want someone who will like us for who we are, not what we're not). We've all seen at least one person who when they are with their friends are rude and inconsiderate, but when they're alone are very friendly and caring. Who's the real person? When they're alone you can have a real conversation with them, but when they're with their group they pretend you don't exist.
After that, you begin to judge them. You mark them as rude and fake. You tell people that this person did this and that, and then other people mark them as the same way, based on what you've said. That's only one kind of judgment that exists. Another is judging them by their attitude and behavior. A new girl comes to school and then begins talking to all the guys and no, or few, girls. What do we say about that person? If you go by the words of the modern movies about high school people, you would probably say something like "she's such a slut." What makes you say that? The fact that she only talks to the guys?What about you who was just standing around, simply watching her, and judging her. Do you know anything about her? I have known many people who get along with people of the opposite gender than them because they are either mostly surrounded by them, or get along better with them. You can't judge someone just by what they do.
Given, the person who's being judged has to also be careful. The fact is, being judged, especially in a school, is expected. Everyone is going to do it. The person being judged is giving people the information they need need to start rumors, and judge. It goes both ways.
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